First it was the pregnant woman who posted a picture of her cross-fitting it up, then it was the mom posting a picture with her kids saying if she can do it, why can’t you, and now the 3 day post birth picture.
Have you seen this story?
Now, I know that my belly is not going to look like that 3 days after birth. Hell–it didn’t look like that pre-pregnancy, but if it did, I would be celebrating my body too. Now, for some it is hard to see things like this because of the whole comparison trap. I’ve been prey to that trap and I’m not saying that it doesn’t depress me a bit to know that I will not be bouncing back like the woman in this photo. Her photo doesn’t define my journey. My body is going to do whatever the heck it is going to do. I know I’m going to have to be patient and nice to myself and just take it one day at a time.
I think everyone needs to stop being so sensitive. I look at the picture of this woman and think how amazingly lucky she is and I’m pretty sure she realizes how lucky she is too. I say bravo to you if you have washboard abs immediately after giving birth. Bravo!!! Yes, I’m giving you a standing ovation, BUT it doesn’t make you any better than the woman who spends 3 months or 3 years getting back to wherever she was before birth. I say bravo to anyone who can push a watermelon out of a pea hole. Too much??? Well, it’s true.
I think it’s time we start celebrating the female body in all forms. Wouldn’t that be nice?!?! Society brainwashes us that washboard abs are better than a roll here and there or stretchmarks, but that doesn’t mean that one is better or more beautiful than the other. I know it is easier to say than to actually really believe at times because it’s something I struggle with constantly. I think we all need to be a bit easier on ourselves post birth and accept the new lumps and bumps and know that they won’t be there forever. Your body isn’t forever ruined. Sure, it may take most of us a lot more work to get back to where we were, but that is totally ok. Every body is different. This woman shouldn’t be bashed because her belly went back like magic, just like the woman who can’t lose those 5 or 10 or 30lbs shouldn’t be bashed. Let’s all just take a deep breath and breathe. There are more important things to get worked up about, aren’t there???? I think once we all stop defining ourselves by how our bodies look we will all be much better off. How we get to that place….I’m open to suggestions.